Anal masturbation can offer a fabulous education on how our bodies respond to anal stimulation. There are lots of ways to surprise your partner in bed.
But “surprising them” by trying to have anal sex without talking about it first isn’t one of them.
The bum, the anus, and the rectum are all sites of enormous potential pleasure.
They respond to feelings of touch, pressure, movement, and can be incredibly pleasurable.
Penetration is only one aspect of anal play, and if you’re not interested in penetration, it doesn’t mean you have to ignore the entire part of your body.