It’s about the mistaken assumption that younger women will be more malleable.” In fact, young women in their early and mid-20s are quite malleable, something a woman that age might deny, but ask that same woman in her 30s to look back at her younger self and it’s likely she’d concede the point.
So why are young women so willing to date older men?
I’d always felt pretty mature for my age (as so many women do), and especially in comparison to the guys around me.
I stayed married to my husband for seven years, and by the time our relationship ended, I saw our age difference in a completely different way.
Schwyzer, on the other hand, believes that men are not hardwired to be attracted to younger women.
He contends, rather, that “much of the appeal” men find in dating younger women is “the hope of finding someone less demanding.” He says, “A man in his 40s who wants to date women in their 20s is making the same calculation as the man who pursues a “mail-order bride” from a country with less egalitarian values.
He says, “If there’s one tangible thing that men can do to help end sexism—and create a healthier culture in which young people come of age—it’s to stop chasing after women young enough to be their biological daughters.” Schwyzer goes on to say, “As hyperbolic as it may sound, there are few more powerful actions that men can take to transform the culture than to date, mate, and stay with their approximate chronological peers.