The man is generally supposed to handle all the decision making in Chinese dating, and some girls take this very seriously.Once I asked a girl what she wanted to do for the date and she just never responded!
Even if it’s not such a big deal to her personally, it's still something that's on her mind and that her parents will be bringing up just about every time they see her.
As a result, being intimate before marriage is a lot less common in China than in the West, though this is not so much the case anymore among younger, more urbanized Chinese.
It’s also commonplace to bring a friend along, but not for a double date – it’s more like a chaperon, buffer or safety net.
Anyway, all of this means that in China itself, if you're dating someone seriously, marriage is at least on the table.
Understanding this, more than anything else, is the key to a successful Chinese dating experience.