In my book (click on title): “How to Successfully Handle Aggressive, Intimidating, and Controlling People” you'll learn how to maintain composure, ways to be proactive instead of reactive, fifteen powerful strategies to disarm controlling tactics, eight ways to say “no” diplomatically but firmly, and seven types of power you can utilize to compel cooperation. One boss I worked for ran a very small company - about 20 people. I have experienced many of these techniques as the daughter of a hyper-controlling, domineering, personality-disordered mother and from a few (thankfully only a few) bosses I've had.Also available: (click on titles): “How to Let Go of Negative Thoughts and Emotions” Follow me on Twitter, Facebook, and Linked In! Most people were crammed into inadequate little rooms and little desks, while the king had a gigantic office, desk, and chair. Understanding that these are techniques can help you to withstand them, but if you are in the position of being dependent on the person utilizing these domineering techniques, you're pretty much screwed.Questions are more likely answered with greater care and detail. Strength and Intimidation in Numbers Some aggressors like to dominate a situation by having a number of associates or friends present to support her or his position.
Not everyone who acts in the following manners may be deliberately trying to control you. Regardless, it’s important to recognize these behaviors in situations where your rights, interests and safety are at stake. Home Court and Time Dominance An aggressive and controlling person may insist on you meeting and interacting in a physical space where he or she can exercise more dominance and control.
This can be the aggressor’s office, home, car, or other spaces where she feels ownership and familiarity (and where you lack them).
When someone’s name is called, the speaker has the listener’s attention.
The listener is more inclined to feel put on the spot, and compelled to respond with greater attentiveness.
You only have the power to ignore or deflect or be non-reactive to power-and-control manipulations if you have nothing to lose: if you're willing to walk away from the potential deal or the relationship, with little if any harm to you, then you have leveled the playing field.