“They can be good conversationalists if they’re with someone who gives them the space to respond and shows interest in their interests,” she said.
It’s Friday night and your friend asks you to go with her to a house party where you’ll know no one. Who knows, maybe you’ll meet the love of your life. Approaching people seems impossible and small talk is exhausting, so you stand near the guacamole, pet the dog a few times, and quietly slip out before midnight—excited to return to your couch and Netflix. We spoke with introversion experts about how shier guys and gals can harness their best qualities to find love, and now present your complete guide to dating while introverted—also useful for extroverts looking to woo an introvert! “Wander up to those folks and try starting a conversation.” Even better, join a group that meets regularly such as a club, class, or sports team.
While extroverts derive energy from being around other people, recharge by being alone—and find the types of big group gatherings where couples often meet (read: parties and bars) draining. If you’re nodding your head right now, you’re in luck.
“This might mean sometimes going out when [introverts] don’t really want to, as a loving gesture, or it might mean letting the extrovert go out and have fun on his or her own,” said Dembling.
Introverts don’t like conflict, which means they may be passive aggressive about their feelings or stay in bad relationships too long.
Once they get started, introverts pick up speed and have trouble stopping.